The truly “essential” workers of our time are the meme-makers and the fact-checkers.
I just read a meme that said:
When people are killed in the line of duty I always hear the same sentiment: “They knew the risk when they took the job.”
How come we can’t apply this logic when criminals are killed during arrests? “They knew the risk when they did the crime.”
Answer: Because it’s not ok for police to kill people (of any color). Cops should be trained to kill only as a last resort. In some countries, cops aren’t even allowed to carry a gun on them. They have to leave it locked in a safe inside their patrol car and call in for special permission to use it. So no, I refuse to accept that people (that’s what criminals are) should just “know the risk” of being killed by a cop.
By the way, when a person commits a crime, not only do they have the right to a fair trial, but it’s in the public’s best interest that the case is investigated thoroughly. It’s kind of hard to interrogate a dead man. Not impossible, but hard.
I tried to watch The Social Dilemma but I kept getting distracted by my phone. What’s it about?
It’s OK to not want children.
The reason I’m telling you this is because it’s something no one ever told me.
So just in case there’s somebody out there that needs to hear it… this one’s for you.
We’ve been told a lot of things.
We’ve been told that motherhood is a natural thing.
We’ve been told that there’s nothing like being a mother, or being a parent.
We’ve been told that it’s selfish not to want kids.
That one day, we’ll change our mind.
We’ve been told that it’s going to be some kind of scary disaster if we don’t want to have children.
“You’re going to regret it.”
“You’re going to end up alone.”
“No one is going to take care of you when you get older.”
“Your motherly instincts will eventually kick in.”
and.. (did I mention?) “One day you’ll change your mind.”
Once you hear these things enough times, at least in my experience, you tend to start doubting and questioning your own beliefs and desires.
“Is it true? Are they right? Will I change my mind?”
I waited 36 years for everyone around me ‘to be right’ until I finally had the clarity and the courage to face the fact that (gasp) maybe it was me who was right all along about what I want and don’t want. Shocking, I know.
So if you, like me, are not sure that you want children and people keep telling you that one day you’ll change your mind, then it’s time you also heard the following:
Not everyone is going to want children.
And that’s okay.
Because you don’t have to.
So, do whatever feels right.
And you know what?
You don’t need to worry and make decisions like that based on fear, based on who is going to take care of you when you’re older, or whether or not you’ll be alone.
I’m sorry to break this to whoever is reading, but guess what? One has nothing to do with the other.
Having children is not some guarantee that they’ll take care of you when you’re older. I say that from experience, I’ve seen that around me.
And having children is not necessarily going to be the most pleasurable experience in the world, or help you find your purpose in life, or keep you and your partner together forever, or whatever other ridiculous idea we pass on from generation to generation.
Each person should do what feels right to them.
If it really is your deep desire to be a mother — and I know that there are women out there who feel this way and I think that’s really awesome. In fact, those are exactly the kind of people that should be parents: the ones that know, deep down inside, that this is their purpose here on this planet, to create and provide for another living being… and then another living being.. (and then another living being?), and not only are they willing to take on the challenge of everything that would entail, but they are excited and grateful for the opportunity to do so…?
I say: GO FOR IT.
Seriously. Follow your passion.
And then, if you’re not one of those people,
if for whatever reason you never had that same passion and desire….
but you’re kind of planning on going along with everybody else just because that’s what everyone else is doing…
even though it doesn’t actually feel that good to you…
then I’m just here to remind you:
It’s OK to not want children.
“I’m convinced that I come from a place where there is no concept of ‘earning a living’. All beings just exist and ‘be’ in peace. Earth is the only planet where we have to ‘pay’ to survive. I have a hard time fitting in.
People say ‘do what you like’, I like to just be and not do.”
– Neha Sinha
“If you think adventure is dangerous, try routine; it is lethal.”
– Paulo Coelho
I don’t know why they call it ‘common sense.’ It doesn’t seem to be common at all.
“You live like this, sheltered, in a delicate world, and you believe you are living. Then you read a book… or you take a trip… and you discover that you are not living, that you are hibernating. The symptoms of hibernating are easily detectable: first, restlessness. The second symptom (when hibernating becomes dangerous and might degenerate into death): absence of pleasure. That is all. It appears like an innocuous illness. Monotony, boredom, death. Millions live like this (or die like this) without knowing it. They work in offices. They drive a car. They picnic with their families. They raise children. And then some shock treatment takes place, a person, a book, a song, and it awakens them and saves them from death. Some never awaken.”
– Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 1: 1931-1934
Whoever invented ‘one size fits all’ clothing really needs to eat a cookie or something.
“You can’t say Merry Christmas because that offends people who aren’t Christian. You can’t say Happy Hanukkah because that offends people who aren’t Jewish. You can’t say Happy Holidays because that offends people who aren’t happy.”
– JP Sears
Those people who think they know everything are a great annoyance to those of us who do.”
– Isaac Asimov
I have read the terms and conditions for growing up and I do not agree.
– Shira Tamir
“The rules are simple: they lie to us, we know they’re lying, they know we know they’re lying, but they keep lying to us, and we keep pretending to believe them.”
– Elena Gorokhova
Mother Nature continues to inspire me…
Research shows that more people die from stroke or heart attack between 9 am and 11 am on Monday morning than at any other time in the week, the direct result of work-related psychological and physical factors which lead to a significant effect of stress during this time.
Hint: If you’d rather die than go to work, you may be in the wrong line of business.
There is another type of relationship out there called the “do-whatever-feels-right-to-yo
“Every cell in the body is programmed to work collaboratively with every other cell, so together they can promote the healthy functioning of the organ they’re part of. You and I are the same; we’re programmed to work collaboratively with each other in order to promote the healthy functioning of civilization. But just as a cancer cell is a cell that goes insane, disconnecting from its natural programming and going off to do its own thing instead, so a malignant consciousness has come to dominate the human race, luring us into self-centered and competitive rather than collaborative attitudes toward each other. The body can heal though, and so can a civilization. Cells, and people, can remember who they really are and why they’re really here. Then all is well.”
– Marianne Williamson