If you don’t stop to check in on your heart’s desires every so often, you’re going to miss that something has changed.
When we react to something, what actually happens is that our brain thinks to itself, “Hmmm, where have I encountered a similar experience before?” and then it re-acts, meaning: acts again. It’s a simple survival mechanism, but it doesn’t have to run on automatic. At any given moment we have the option to pause and say: “Thanks, but no thanks.. This time I’m responding differently.”
I’ve reached a point in my life where honesty and openness have become a priority. It isn’t always easy, but it’s always fulfilling. To stay true to myself is the ultimate freedom.
You can’t change what you haven’t realized yet. Once you realize what you were asleep to, the change happens on its own.”
– Byron Katie
I have resistance to people who feel the need to make a lot of noise and drama in order for others to accept who they are.. YOU accept who YOU are. The rest will follow. (And yes, i can easily turn that statement back on myself.)
This is a practice that i have found pretty interesting and i wanted to share. I call it the “Bedtime Comfort Challenge.”
Basically when you go to bed each night, you ask yourself: “What can I do to be even more comfortable than i am right now?”
If you listen to your body closely you will always find more and more things you can do to feel even more comfortable. It could mean changing positions, or spreading your legs a little more, or noticing your jaw is tense and relaxing it, or relaxing your forehead, or moving your arm a little more to the left, or shifting a boob… You get the picture. You ask yourself that question again and again and act accordingly until you are so comfortable that you are practically melting into the mattress.
If you repeat this process on a regular basis, you’ll benefit in 4 ways:
1) You practice bringing yourself into the NOW. In those moments, you are not lost in thought, reviewing the previous day or worrying about the next one, you are here and now, in this bed, in this moment.
2) You start training yourself to bring your awareness down into the body and to what it needs. For many of us, we are so ‘in our heads’ most of the time that often we forget there is a body attached.
3) You start getting used to paying attention to what makes you feel good, and to go in the direction of it. As that becomes more habitual, you’ll see it apply to other things in your life as well – finding the thoughts, words or actions that feel good to you and going in the direction of them.
4) Its just really freaking comfortable and relaxing, and our bodies, minds and souls deserve that.. :)
If you think your life is about doingness, you do not understand what you are about. Your soul doesn’t care what you do for a living-and when your life is over, neither will you. Your soul cares only about what you’re being while you’re doing whatever you’re doing. It is a state of beingness the soul is after, not a state of doingness.
– Neale Donald Walsch
That awkward moment when you realize your whole culture and society has been based on telling you what to FEEL. I’ve been so busy making sure nobody tells me what to DO, I never saw this coming.
Whenever anyone says anything critical about Israel, there’s always an Israeli who will compare it to other countries and say “So what if we suck, we’re still better than THEM”. What kind of fucked up logic is that? How does that serve anything? We need to stop pointing our fingers at everyone else and start looking at ourselves! Like Gandhi said: “BE the change you want to see in the world” …he did NOT say…”Compare yourself to people who suck even more than you so that you can feel better about yourself.”
Some of us are so used to feeling like an outsider in this world that we’re barely able to recognize that the tables have turned. Feeling like an outsider is the new “normal!” We’re all starting to question ourselves and our reality, and while it can be a tough process releasing resistance to what we thought we knew, it’s also where the real fun begins.
That awkward moment when the only thing you want in life is to know what you want in life.