Life is what you make of it; no more, no less.
It’s OK to not want children.
The reason I’m telling you this is because it’s something no one ever told me.
So just in case there’s somebody out there that needs to hear it… this one’s for you.
We’ve been told a lot of things.
We’ve been told that motherhood is a natural thing.
We’ve been told that there’s nothing like being a mother, or being a parent.
We’ve been told that it’s selfish not to want kids.
That one day, we’ll change our mind.
We’ve been told that it’s going to be some kind of scary disaster if we don’t want to have children.
“You’re going to regret it.”
“You’re going to end up alone.”
“No one is going to take care of you when you get older.”
“Your motherly instincts will eventually kick in.”
and.. (did I mention?) “One day you’ll change your mind.”
Once you hear these things enough times, at least in my experience, you tend to start doubting and questioning your own beliefs and desires.
“Is it true? Are they right? Will I change my mind?”
I waited 36 years for everyone around me ‘to be right’ until I finally had the clarity and the courage to face the fact that (gasp) maybe it was me who was right all along about what I want and don’t want. Shocking, I know.
So if you, like me, are not sure that you want children and people keep telling you that one day you’ll change your mind, then it’s time you also heard the following:
Not everyone is going to want children.
And that’s okay.
Because you don’t have to.
So, do whatever feels right.
And you know what?
You don’t need to worry and make decisions like that based on fear, based on who is going to take care of you when you’re older, or whether or not you’ll be alone.
I’m sorry to break this to whoever is reading, but guess what? One has nothing to do with the other.
Having children is not some guarantee that they’ll take care of you when you’re older. I say that from experience, I’ve seen that around me.
And having children is not necessarily going to be the most pleasurable experience in the world, or help you find your purpose in life, or keep you and your partner together forever, or whatever other ridiculous idea we pass on from generation to generation.
Each person should do what feels right to them.
If it really is your deep desire to be a mother — and I know that there are women out there who feel this way and I think that’s really awesome. In fact, those are exactly the kind of people that should be parents: the ones that know, deep down inside, that this is their purpose here on this planet, to create and provide for another living being… and then another living being.. (and then another living being?), and not only are they willing to take on the challenge of everything that would entail, but they are excited and grateful for the opportunity to do so…?
I say: GO FOR IT.
Seriously. Follow your passion.
And then, if you’re not one of those people,
if for whatever reason you never had that same passion and desire….
but you’re kind of planning on going along with everybody else just because that’s what everyone else is doing…
even though it doesn’t actually feel that good to you…
then I’m just here to remind you:
It’s OK to not want children.
Some countries don’t question a chicken’s motives for crossing the road, but instead invest in ways to help the chicken cross it safely and more effectively.
#howdidthechickencrosstheroad #wildlifecrossing #animalbridge #animalwelfare #respectnature #theywereherefirst #whereareYOURtaxesgoing
Recommended Link: 12 Amazing Animal Bridges Around the World
It’s one of those mornings where I’m torn between the beauty and the sadness of it all…
#coldautumnday #leavesarefallingonmeasiwritethis #itallmeaningmylifeandlifeitself
I was craving a cup of coffee along the way so i made the first turn pointing me in the direction of a bakery. They didn’t have coffee but they had a community garden right behind me with a reminder to phone home. (I really should, sigh.)
Cats teach me everything I need to know about life:
- Eat well
- Sleep well
- Act like you own the place
- Seek adventures
- Get pampered
- Be beautiful
- Take naps
- Shower often
- Enjoy the moment
- Know when to stop giving a fuck.
Spent an amazing day exploring and hiking at Duke Farms in New Jersey. Also channeled my inner goddess along the way.
The universe keeps speaking on my little journey, and I keep listening.
Another piece of me died the other day. I realized that many of the “spiritual” things I have chosen to believe existed have never really been proven. Not by science, but more importantly, not even by myself. Psychic abilities, spirit guides, reincarnation, extraterrestrial communication, soul contracts, multi-dimensional realities, etc, etc – I spent my entire life believing in these things and defending them to others without ever really having any of my own proof or personal experience.
Ever since I was a kid this world was never enough for me. Always needing more, always searching for more. And now, TROLOLOL, the joke was on me because apparently my real life mission was to accept that this is all there is and to find the beauty and magic in it. It took me half my life to discover my real mission, and I suppose the rest of my life to implement it. Who knows, maybe once I surrender to what already is and find my peace with it, the other things I’ve been searching for will just open themselves naturally to me. Or maybe it wont even matter anymore whether or not they are true.
More interesting than ordering Chinese take-out and watching Netflix in my pajamas? I’m intrigued…
This melody kind of just came out while I was meditating so i decided to record it.
Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?
I don’t know why they call it ‘common sense.’ It doesn’t seem to be common at all.
#WhenIWasYourAge we didn’t have copy/paste…we had to write things TWICE.
Whoever invented ‘one size fits all’ clothing really needs to eat a cookie or something.
Meditation: Because some answers can only be found on the Inner net.
My doc: You don’t look 35.
Me: I don’t feel 35.
Her: You look 10 years younger at least.
Me: That’s pretty much how i feel.
Her: That’s good. Keep living like that. Feel young and enjoy life.
Me: That’s the plan. :)
I have read the terms and conditions for growing up and I do not agree.
– Shira Tamir
That awkward moment when you’re sitting at a Jerusalem bus stop minding your own business and out of nowhere a religious girl chokes on her drink, spits it all over you, apologizes profusely, and then gives you a blessing. o_0
Research shows that more people die from stroke or heart attack between 9 am and 11 am on Monday morning than at any other time in the week, the direct result of work-related psychological and physical factors which lead to a significant effect of stress during this time.
Hint: If you’d rather die than go to work, you may be in the wrong line of business.