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You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second.

“They knew the risk”

I just read a meme that said:

When people are killed in the line of duty I always hear the same sentiment: “They knew the risk when they took the job.”
How come we can’t apply this logic when criminals are killed during arrests? “They knew the risk when they did the crime.”


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Answer: Because it’s not ok for police to kill people (of any color). Cops should be trained to kill only as a last resort. In some countries, cops aren’t even allowed to carry a gun on them. They have to leave it locked in a safe inside their patrol car and call in for special permission to use it. So no, I refuse to accept that people (that’s what criminals are) should just “know the risk” of being killed by a cop.

By the way, when a person commits a crime, not only do they have the right to a fair trial, but it’s in the public’s best interest that the case is investigated thoroughly. It’s kind of hard to interrogate a dead man. Not impossible, but hard.

The Key to My Earthly Pursuits

“What did you do as a child that made the hours pass like minutes? Herein lies the key to your earthly pursuits.” — C.G. Jung

I remember I used to like following the ice cream truck on my bike until he was so far out of my neighborhood that I would feel “lost,” and then I’d turn around and try to trace my way back home again. In a way, I’m still doing that in my “earthly pursuits.” Seeking adventure, feeling lost, finding my way back home. In the end, it’s all about enjoying the ride.

<Enter ice cream truck music here because that’s what I heard the entire time.>

Crazy Broom Lady

A weird-looking flying insect that was a little too big for my comfort:
Him: Hey, what’s up? Nice place ya got! (looks around)
Me: Um…. hi??
Him: What’s this? What’s this? What’s this? What’s this? This looks interesting. Maybe I’ll hang out here for a while. (settles down)
Me (with a broom): Oh no, you don’t! You can’t stay here.
Him (literally becomes louder and starts flying around dramatically): WTF, crazy broom lady!? You wanna back off a bit?!!
Me: Ok, ok, I’m sorry! Look, I’m putting the broom down. But can you please just leave? You can’t stay here…..
Him: You think I WANNA be here now, lady? (continues frantically bumping into things)
Me: Ok, look, I’ve made 3 exit points available to you. I really need you to focus here.
Him: I’m trying. Is this it? Is this it? Is this it?
Me: Focus harder. -_-
Him: Is this it? Is this it? Is this it? Is this it?
Me: Yes, you’re getting closer!
Him: Is this it? Is this it? Is this it? Is this it?
Me: YES! ALMOST THERE!
Him: Is this it? Is this it? Is this— Oh.
Me: YES!
Him: Well, I guess this is it. Peace out, crazy broom lady!
Me: Ok, bye! Safe travels! And sorry again about earlier! (runs to shut down all exit points)

The Calming Effect

Over the past few years, I’ve been told by several people in various situations, that I have a “calming effect” on them. It always makes me laugh because I know my mind and “calm” is not necessarily the right description. The calm before the storm, maybe.

Usually, I just write it off to the fact that I’m soft-spoken, polite, (you know, just your basic ‘decent human being’ stuff which has become something of a lost art.) But tonight it happened again, a stranger I interacted with who started off by saying they had had a “long day”, later randomly mentioned this calming effect again.

It got me thinking, maybe I should stop ignoring these little messages from the universe and start using my calming superpowers for the greater good. I have a feeling the world could use some calming energy right about now and in the years ahead. Not sure what that means for me exactly, but I think I’m open to finding out.

When I wrote this on social media, someone commented: “It’s the balancing your being brings.. most people just don’t know what to call it.” It helped me to fine-tune this thing because I realized they were right.

In these moments, it’s usually me just “being” and the other person allowing themselves to share this space with me till we find some kind of balance. In tonight’s case we were forced to occupy the same space for a while so they had to adjust. In extreme situations, when people are way off to the other edge of the stress spectrum, my so-called calming energy can sometimes be overwhelming for them and they resist it even more. In those cases there is just no possibility for balance.

Anyway, that’s it. Namaste, bitches. (This calming thing comes and goes.)

It’s OK to Not Want Children

It’s OK to not want children.

The reason I’m telling you this is because it’s something no one ever told me.

So just in case there’s somebody out there that needs to hear it… this one’s for you.

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We’ve been told a lot of things.

We’ve been told that motherhood is a natural thing.

We’ve been told that there’s nothing like being a mother, or being a parent.

We’ve been told that it’s selfish not to want kids.

That one day, we’ll change our mind.

We’ve been told that it’s going to be some kind of scary disaster if we don’t want to have children.

“You’re going to regret it.”

“You’re going to end up alone.”

“No one is going to take care of you when you get older.”

“Your motherly instincts will eventually kick in.”

and.. (did I mention?) “One day you’ll change your mind.”

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Once you hear these things enough times, at least in my experience, you tend to start doubting and questioning your own beliefs and desires.

“Is it true? Are they right? Will I change my mind?”

I waited 36 years for everyone around me ‘to be right’ until I finally had the clarity and the courage to face the fact that (gasp) maybe it was me who was right all along about what I want and don’t want. Shocking, I know.

So if you, like me, are not sure that you want children and people keep telling you that one day you’ll change your mind, then it’s time you also heard the following:

Not everyone is going to want children.

And that’s okay.

Because you don’t have to.

So, do whatever feels right.

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And you know what?

You don’t need to worry and make decisions like that based on fear, based on who is going to take care of you when you’re older, or whether or not you’ll be alone.

I’m sorry to break this to whoever is reading, but guess what? One has nothing to do with the other.

Having children is not some guarantee that they’ll take care of you when you’re older. I say that from experience, I’ve seen that around me.

And having children is not necessarily going to be the most pleasurable experience in the world, or help you find your purpose in life, or keep you and your partner together forever, or whatever other ridiculous idea we pass on from generation to generation.

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Each person should do what feels right to them.

If it really is your deep desire to be a mother — and I know that there are women out there who feel this way and I think that’s really awesome. In fact, those are exactly the kind of people that should be parents:  the ones that know, deep down inside, that this is their purpose here on this planet, to create and provide for another living being… and then another living being.. (and then another living being?), and not only are they willing to take on the challenge of everything that would entail, but they are excited and grateful for the opportunity to do so…?

I say: GO FOR IT.

Seriously. Follow your passion.

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And then, if you’re not one of those people,

if for whatever reason you never had that same passion and desire….

but you’re kind of planning on going along with everybody else just because that’s what everyone else is doing…

even though it doesn’t actually feel that good to you…

then I’m just here to remind you:

It’s OK to not want children.

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How Did the Chicken Cross the Road?

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Norwegian wildlife crossing. Photo by Shira Tamir.

Some countries don’t question a chicken’s motives for crossing the road, but instead invest in ways to help the chicken cross it safely and more effectively.

#howdidthechickencrosstheroad #wildlifecrossing #animalbridge #animalwelfare #respectnature #theywereherefirst #whereareYOURtaxesgoing

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